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It’s good to talk


It’s good to talk

A simple coffee catch-up with friends has reminded Sami Muirhead of the importance of good conversation.

I had coffee in an actual cafe with real-life adults. If I had written that sizzling opening line in 2019, I would have justifiably been fired by the fine people at this magazine! But nowadays, it is a big deal!

The three of us didn’t sit quietly or speak softly while we inhaled our caffeine. We roared laughing for an hour and swapped stories. We ate cake that we didn’t have to cook or serve. It felt so very good ordering real coffee. And it totally filled my bucket to debrief on all that has gone on in the past few months.

I urge you all to do it immediately if only to unpack all the emotions of 2020. I learnt so many things drinking my coffee. I found out everyone felt afraid around Easter because of coronavirus. I listened as my friends told me how home schooling nearly broke them some days. I heard stories of other friend’s friends and their marital fights, their financial struggles, their health changes. The words were flying around the cafe so quickly and it was all music to my ears.

I visited India 20 years ago and went to the slums. The poverty upset me to the point I could not sleep for months. But in that depressing neighbourhood, the men would court their potential wives with the gift of conversation. They would sit around the fire pits at night and seduce the women with tales. They could not afford flowers or dinner dates so the art of storytelling was their gift to their ladies. And that is how I felt having coffee at Buderim.

We swapped tales and it was good to hear all this raw and honest chat as one can go down that rabbit hold of social media and think everyone’s life is perfect. I love a friend even more when they are vulnerable. But the funniest stories from my mum friends came from kids and other families. I heard of the 14- year old son whose family lives interstate – he took a photo of himself and then somehow froze it on his computer screen so the teacher thought he was sitting there for the class Zoom session. Genius!

Then I heard the story of a seven-year-old who started to do a stilted robot dance in a Zoom session and said with a broken voice: “We have bad internet today as there are really strong winds.” And then simply hit ‘leave meeting’ and logged out for the day and played cricket in the backyard.

So please spend that $5 this week and catch up with your friends, as it is the cheapest hit of therapy you will ever find. You’re welcome.


Sami Muirhead is a radio announcer, blogger and commentator. For more from Sami tune into Mix FM.

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